This video lists the top 10 things you will probably never hear a man say. This video is similar to the magazine articles that listed phrases that should not be said by one gender in the presence of the opposite gender.
So far, I haven’t heard guys saying those phrases naturally with the exception to number 5: “We haven’t been to the mall in ages, let’s go!” However, the only times I have heard this phrase is among friends then have not met up for really long; especially if the guy needs to buy a specific item. Otherwise, it wouldn’t be a shopping mall but another location like a restaurant or the beach. While these phrases are rarely heard, I began to wonder if they were ever felt. Do guys have the urge to go somewhere nice to dress up or occasionally have to do a chore instead of meeting up but never openly admit it because it’s just not masculine enough? Or is it that men genuinely don’t have such thoughts hence, there is never the need to mention those phrases in the first place.
My natural instinct tells me that it’s the former reason. As the recent article discussed in class mentions, there are just some things that men do not do because they are “out of practice”. I feel that the issues raised in this video are not exclusive for females. Why we do not expect men to say such phrases is because in most societies, men are presumed to be less expressive than women. With the increase trend of the sensitive new age man, will more men begin to express their thoughts even though it goes against the normative masculine speech?
what you are asking is whether a new social norm is being constructed for men with regards to their expressions of masculinity. If there is, then we could expect a gradual shift in acceptable behavior to the new norm... I suspect this is exactly the case with the "new age sensitive man" becoming less of a curiosity and more the norm,at least in some cultures.
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